There are two schools of thought on climbing a mountain with the person you love. One says it is the most romantic thing you will ever do: a shared summit, a sunrise nobody else will ever fully understand, a story you get to keep telling together for the rest of your lives.

Here is a truth we have watched play out for years: more Kilimanjaro dreams are killed by other people's calendars than by altitude. You mention the mountain, friends say "definitely, someday", the group chat goes quiet, and the dream sits in committee for a decade. So this piece is for the person considering the braver, simpler option: going alone

Everyone can picture the summit photograph. Almost nobody can picture Tuesday. And it is Tuesday, the ordinary middle day of a climb, that people are really asking about when they ask whether they could do this: what happens all day up there, what is the rhythm, when do you rest, what do you actually do?

Let us be the operator that finally answers this properly. You have read about the routes and the altitude and the training, and somewhere around midnight you typed the real question into Google: what about the toilets?

This is the great dinner-table debate of world trekking, and it is really a choice between two opposite prizes. Kilimanjaro gives you a summit of your own: the highest point in Africa, under your boots, earned. Everest Base Camp gives you an audience with the king: a two-week walk through the greatest mountain range on earth to stand at the foot of the highest mountain of all.

The final comparison in this series is the closest to our hearts, because these two mountains share a horizon. Mount Meru stands barely seventy kilometres from Kilimanjaro, close enough that from Meru's summit ridge at dawn you watch the sun rise directly behind the Roof of Africa, floating on the clouds across the plain.

Here is the comparison where the obvious answer is wrong. Kilimanjaro stands more than a kilometre higher than Mont Blanc, so surely it is the harder climb? No. Kilimanjaro is the highest mountain on earth you can simply walk up. Mont Blanc, a full 1,100 metres lower, is a genuine mountaineering ascent: crampons, ice axe, rope, glacier travel and real alpine judgement. Higher is not the same as harder, and choosing between these two is really choosing between two different sp

Two of the most famous walks on earth, one adventure budget, and a decision that keeps coming up at dinner tables everywhere: the Roof of Africa, or the road to Machu Picchu?

There is no official public register of deaths on Kilimanjaro, so treat any precise figure you read online with caution. What is commonly reported is this: tens of thousands of people climb the mountain every year, and in a typical year a small number of deaths are recorded among climbers, most linked to severe altitude illness or to underlying heart conditions revealed by exertion at altitude.

If you are waiting to feel ready, you will wait forever, because nobody feels ready for a mountain they have never climbed.

Not fit enough, too old, dodgy knees, no experience, scared of heights, skint? Here are the six reasons people decide Kilimanjaro "isn't for them", and why each one is probably wrong.